So your partner just told you she’s pregnant. This might feel like uncharted territory. You may feel powerless because culture tells you, “It’s her choice, not yours.” However, you are not powerless, because she just included you in knowing what is going on in your relationship. With this news, you could be feeling a lot of different emotions right now: anger, joy, fear…
Your involvement and your voice matter. Maybe ask yourself, “What do I want?” and “How will this affect me? How will this affect us?” Take your time to think through the situation for yourself. Also, take the time to talk through the situation with your partner. Come to a decision together, because it is a decision that affects both of you.
Sometimes people facing a difficult decision try to please others and end up hurting themselves. Or, they make a hasty decision and hurt everyone. If you need to come in to talk, we have trained male advocates who will listen nonjudgmentally to help walk you through your situation and can educate you on all your options.
If you would like to learn more right now, you can visit our abortion, adoption, and parenting pages that can be found under “For Her.” They are just as much for you as they are for her. It is best that you become educated on what all the abortion methods are and other options that are also available for you both to choose. In doing so, you will have a better understanding of what your partner may go through physically, mentally, and emotionally. You can also have a better understanding of what could happen next for you and your relationship.
At Turning Point we are here for you, and for your partner. You can make an appointment together or you can make an appointment on your own. All of our services are free and confidential.
If you are a male with an abortion experience in your past and need help and healing, we can offer that to you as well. Please visit our Post abortion support for more information and make an appointment.
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